How To Oppress a People: Pyramid, Power, & Protocol vs. Process

How to Prevent a Promotion Another term for protocol is “red tape”. Sometimes, red tape can be another word for complicating a process. For example, a lot of paperwork, a lot of reference letters, a lot of background checks, a lot of fees, a lot of training, a lot of butt-kissing and brown-nosing. Anything that…

Define Yourself! To Stand for Nothing Means to Fall for Anything!

Who are you? How would your friends, family, classmates, coworkers, and significant other define you? When people identify you, they will usually say statements like, “she is nice/rude, smart/slow, funny/dull.” They also might say what you like by saying things like, “he likes sports, she loves to read, she enjoys being in the water.” They…

Setting Boundaries Against Trespassing In Relationships

One of the concepts that has had the biggest impact, if not THE biggest impact, on my life is the concept of boundaries. Boundaries is knowing where you end and the next person begins. It’s knowing what lies inside of your boundary line – kind of like a neighbor knows how much of the adjacent…

Cheap Love: When You Give/Get Too Much for Too Little Too Soon

In many aspects of our life, me and my fellow members of the microwave generation get very frustrated when we don’t get EVERYTHING we want EXACTLY when we want it, for virtually NOTHING. There is actually something very wrong with that. Back in my grandmother’s day, if you wanted something of great value, you would…

Maybe That Last Argument WAS Your Fault [Core Fears]

Do you recall the details of the last serious argument you had? What sparked your anger? Was it the topic? Was it the way something was said? Or was it the person who you were arguing with? Here’s another question: is this an argument that you seem to have had before? After listening to a…