I am not against same-sex marriage because I just think it’s “gross”.
I am not against same-sex marriage because my church told me to think and believe that way.
I am against same-sex marriage because it’ll never fulfill the purpose of what God originally intended.
It’s like calling some hair grease the word “nail polish” when it absolutely fulfills none of the requirements of nail polish. If you want to be under the label of “nail polish” so bad, just call the hair grease “wail molish” or “tail bolish”, but do not call your own invention of God’s already invented institution “nail polish.” It’s like a man trying to pledge a sorority. Everyone knows that sororities are only for females. Instead of the man joining a sorority, why doesn’t he just join a fraternity?! Or make up a word similar to sorority like hojority?
I know it’s starting to sound silly, but it’s going to get REAL good.
I used to think that marriage was simply the Christian way for a man and woman who wanted to have sex as a couple without the fear of going to hell looming over their heads. Then as I got older, I realized that there were financial benefits to marriage if one of the spouses died or if the couple were to divorce. Alimony and pre-nuptuals and wills and inheritance came into play.
But just a few weeks ago, I started to see marriage as it REALLY is. It’s not about guilt-free sex and monetary benefits and security; it’s about a very special, intimate dynamic relationship that the Bible teaches us about.
Genesis 2:23-25 (NIV)
The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. The man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.
Matthew 19:4-6 (KJV)
And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
Ephesians 5:21-34 (KJV)
Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
While visiting a church whose sermon for the day was “Naked & Unashamed”, I learned the true definition of marriage. Just as it is mentioned in Ephesians 5:32, it a great mystery concerning Christ and the church. The pastor said that marriage is symbolic of our relationship to God/Jesus.
The Parable of the Ten Virgins
Matthew 25:1 – At that time the kingdom of heaven will be like ten virgins who took their lamps and went out to meet the bridegroom.
Jesus is the bridegroom that this parable is referring too. We, the church, are the virgins who are to be his bride. But this post is not about the return of Jesus; it’s about the purpose of marriage.
The pastor at this church said that when Jesus was taken down from the cross after he was crucified and died, he was wrapped in linen and laid in a tomb.
Mark 15:46 – And he bought fine linen, and took him down, and wrapped him in the linen, and laid him in a sepulchre which was hewn out of a rock, and rolled a stone unto the door of the sepulchre.
The pastor said that at that time and in that culture, after a wedding, the couple would lay a white sheet on the bed where they would consummate their marriage. If after the sexual intercourse the sheet was still white, then the man would assume that the woman was not a virgin when they married. If that was the case, the marriage would be annulled. The blood on the linens was proof of the purity of the woman. When Jesus died for us, His murderers checked to see if he was dead by piercing him in his side.
The usual custom was the put a pole at the bottom of the foot and push it upwards very hard, and if the crucified person did not scream in agony over having the leg bone broken, they knew that the person was dead. But with Jesus, they decided to pierce him in his side instead. Maybe this is a stretch, but could it be that just as a virgin has to have her hymen torn by her husband in order for the marriage to have been consummated, could it be that Jesus had to be pierced and had to bleed on the “marriage bed white linen” in order to prove the consummation of the marriage? In order to prove the professed purity of our Jesus?
The Jews therefore, because it was the preparation, that the bodies should not remain upon the cross on the sabbath day, (for that sabbath day was an high day,) besought Pilate that their legs might be broken, and that they might be taken away. Then came the soldiers, and brake the legs of the first, and of the other which was crucified with him. But when they came to Jesus, and saw that he was dead already, they brake not his legs: But one of the soldiers with a spear pierced his side, and forthwith came there out blood and water. And he that saw it bare record, and his record is true: and he knoweth that he saith true, that ye might believe. For these things were done, that the scripture should be fulfilled, A bone of him shall not be broken. And again another scripture saith, They shall look on him whom they pierced.
In a human marriage, I believe that most people (whether believers or not) would agree that marriage should consist of unconditional love, sacrifice, acceptance, truth/honesty, and faithfulness/commitment. Aren’t those the EXACT same things we get from our relationship with God and Jesus?
In the church services that occur every Sunday, some people are only there for a “spiritual orgasm”. This typically occurs in African-American Pentecostal churches. We want to shout, run, jump, dance, and cry. That’s all good, but are they producing fruit? We want the “orgasm”, but we don’t want to get impregnated with the Word so that we can eventually birth fruit or “baby Christians”/disciples. Marriage is not just about good sex; marriage is also about procreation (having children). Homosexual marriages will never be able to procreate because either both couples have the womb or both couples have the seed. You have to have one seed (at least) and one womb to make a baby!
Last, but not least, marriage is supposed to be a place where both partners can be “naked” and “unashamed” before one another. The same is true in our relationship to God. At first, Adam and Eve were naked before God and felt no shame. However, after Adam and Eve had sinned and found out that they were both naked, they became ashamed before God because they didn’t want Him to see their nudity.
Genesis 2:25 – The man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.
Genesis 3:9-11 – And the LORD God called unto Adam, and said unto him, Where art thou? And he [Adam] said, I heard thy voice in the garden, and I was afraid, because I was naked; and I hid myself. And he [God] said, Who told thee that thou wast naked?
At first, they were naked and unashamed. But after they knew of their nakedness, they became ashamed. God knew all along that they were naked, but they didn’t and weren’t supposed to know.
God wants to know us intimately. He wants nothing between us in our relationship to Him. No “clothes” or “condoms”. Just us. We try to hide behind facades and religion, but He knows our hearts. He loves us unconditional. You can’t have true intimacy while wearing spiritual “clothes” and “condoms”.
So THAT’S what marriage means to me. It’s not for homosexual, lesbians, or even heterosexuals just to have guilt-free/fornication-less sex and to get financial perks. It’s all about doing it God’s way according to His original design. If you will not be doing it God’s way, then you ought to be calling it something else…
Farriage, Garriage, Tarriage, Parriage, but just not marriage! You can’t name something new and different with the same name as something else that has already been named, defined, or instituted. I have no right as a human to name human children “dogs” or vice versa. They have already been named and defined. You can’t redefine what God has set in stone.
P.S. Some of you might think, “well many heterosexuals don’t do marriage God’s way b/c every heterosexual is not a Christian, so is she against nonChristian heterosexual marriage too?” To that I say, “The name of the post is Why I Am Against Same-Sex Marriage; it is not called Who All Writeous Rhema Thinks Has the Right To Get Married.”