How To Oppress a People: Pyramid, Power, & Protocol vs. Process

How to Prevent a Promotion


Have you ever felt that you were called to do and be more in a particular system? Maybe you felt you should have been promoted or given more responsibilities after serving faithfully. Maybe that system was your local church, your job, your fraternity/sorority, etc. You knew a considerable amount of time had passed, but for some reason, you were stuck in the same place. Let me submit for your consideration what just might be the reason why.

Some years ago, God began to communicate to me about the function of shapes. We know that circles help you transport heavy objects over a long distance (wheels). We know that squares/rectangles help to build stable structures (bricks). And triangles, when arranged in a particular way, create a way to reach a higher level (ramps and stair steps).

Well, late last year, God communicated to me about a more complex shape – the pyramid. A pyramid is four triangles all connected on the bottom by one square. Well, in a pyramid, the higher you go, the less space there is. The lower you are, the more room it is.

All oppressive structure and systems are shaped as a pyramid. Some of you have heard the phrase “pyramid scheme”. This too is an oppressive system. Many people in the higher ranks of the pyramid like their comfy position. One reason, is because their lofty position puts all eyes (and admiration) on them. Another reason is because they have less pressure on them. If you watch cheerleaders, they put the lightest cheerleaders on the top which puts more pressure on the large ones on the bottom. The ones on top get to do the flips and high kicks and get the oohs and aahs. The ones on the bottom get the pressure not to drop the ones on top.

Unfortunately, this happens in some denominations. It doesn’t matter if it’s deliberate. It just happens. You can’t determine the functions of shapes with good intentions. No matter what you desire, all spheres, cylinders, and circles roll. No matter what you desire, all squares and rectangles are stackable. No matter what you desire, all pyramids will exalt some and oppress others. The only way not to have an oppressive pyramid is to change the shape.

I was a member of a pyramid in college. I was initiated into a group which requires that the older members “retire”. The older members had grown accustomed to their high, celebrated position, but now had to give way to the newest members. Just an older siblings gets jealous of the new baby, some of the older members felt they were being replaced. They were no longer “running the yard”. So they had to do what they had to do to repress the newbies as long as they could. Here is how it is done:



Another term for protocol is “red tape”. Sometimes, red tape can be another word for complicating a process. For example, a lot of paperwork, a lot of reference letters, a lot of background checks, a lot of fees, a lot of training, a lot of butt-kissing and brown-nosing. Anything that can be done to postpone the positioning of the new ones!

Now don’t get it twisted. I absolutely believe in protocol. I believe in service and loyalty and testing. But some people are misusing these terms just to keep you at the bottom of the pyramid.

Do me a favor and quit any fast food restaurant that would have you frying fries for 5 years! You should be working the register after one year! And whoever was at the register for 5 years should have been promoted to manager! If not, it means that the organization is not growing. That means the managers are holding on tightly to their positions which means they are oppressing those under them.

Sadly, most oppressors are those who have been previously oppressed. To them, oppression is so natural to their world that they call it “protocol”. There are some good things about protocol in that they weed out fools and clowns and those who are not serious about ministry or work. If you refuse to take a course to get a certificate to get a promotion, then that weeds you out because it exposes you as stubborn and lazy and unwilling to improve yourself. But what happens when someone has been properly processed and you still try to hinder them from promotion?

This same thing happened with King Saul. He had misbehaved God and so God decided to remove His anointing from him and to put it on someone else – David. But Saul was not ready for demotion. So he decided to oppress David. King Saul was unaware that David was not his problem – God’s decision was what Saul should have had a problem with. Some people will attack you because you are proof of their demotion. They don’t know that even if they were successful in killing you that God would have another replacement to signify their demotion. If they killed every successor, they’d STILL be demoted.

When people fight against the next/new move of God, they are fighting against a good thing. It shouldn’t matter if God is using them; they should just be glad that God is doing!

This reminds me of Joseph and his situation with his family. His brothers were very jealous about his dreams, but they shouldn’t have because he didn’t conjure up his own dream. God Himself gave it to him to sustain his family and nationality (Israelites/Hebrews/Jews) during a 7 year drought! They were mad about their OWN survival all because God was doing it through their little brother! Selah!

If we take it to the New Testament, we hear of another Saul, but his name was changed to (Apostle) Paul. He was at the bottom ranks because he delivered letters that caused the persecution and murder of Christians. He didn’t walk with Jesus and observe any of His miracles as the 12 disciples had done. He was not a part of the Pentecost experience in Acts 2. He had not personally met or been taught by Jesus as many other disciples/Christians had. But God bypassed ALL the protocol and procedures on the road to Damascus! He immediately decided that He would choose and use Paul to lead perhaps THOUSANDS of Gentiles to Christ not to mention to write much of the New Testament which has lead millions to Christ! What if! What if the 11 remaining disciples had decided to red-tape Paul? What if they had decided that he needed to follow them for three years as they had followed Jesus for three years? How many souls would have been lost during that time frame? How many letters to the churches and people would not have been written during that time frame? God Himself can speed up the process for some people based of the urgency and importance of their duty!

And sadly, some people have been through all the protocol there was and yet they still turn out to be terrible preachers, horrible teachers, and awful pastors. Man-made protocol cannot compare to Godly process! Remember that EVERY chief priest and Pharisee and scribe and Saducee had been FORMALLY “PROCEDURED” and just about every one died and went to hell. They persecuted Jesus because they didn’t understand his advanced processing. They refused to believe in Him because He didn’t go through the red tape. The ones who did believe came to him in secret — Nicodemus (aka “Nic @ Nite”) and Joseph of Arimathea (who loaned Jesus his tomb for a few days).

I just want to encourage some of you that if you are currently in a pyramid scheme, don’t you dare stay in there just to ascend the ranks just to oppress those at the bottom. A pyramid can be destroyed if the people at the bottom stop supporting those at the top. Leave the dysfunction. Every time you sit in a seat or give a dollar, you are keeping the system alive. If everyone at the bottom would just leave, the stop level would drop by one. Then those who were above you will now be at the floor level. Then those must leave, so forth and so on. Then those at the top will eventually be at the bottom with everyone else. Don’t get me wrong; God does want leaders — just not dictators. Just like kids need parents and wives need husbands and cities need mayors and nations need kings/queens/presidents. Leadership is a divine concept. People need good leaders to look up to so that they can know how to behave and be great citizens. But remember that Jesus said whoever will be the greatest among a group must be the servant. The Son of God came to serve, not be served. This is how it must be with all leaders. They are not to be controlling, cruel dictators and oppressors like Hitler and Kim Jong. They are to be exemplary, meek servants like Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. and Nelson Mandela.

The main folk who keep a pyramid scheme alive are those who refuse to break rank at the sake of keeping the sick system alive. God had no problem dismantling the Babel tower project; you should have no problem dismantling oppressive structures. When you stop giving your money, it demands that the remaining ones give more money. And they’ll be so oppressed, that they’ll leave too which increases the burden on the other ones who won’t leave. The structure above will be so heavy that it crushes them so they leave. Sometimes those at the top can tell when you’re getting tired, so they’ll give you a title or a position to stop you from leaving. And then they’ll demand that you invite others to fill in your now vacant spot in the pyramid bottom.

The last thing you should do is incorporate your friends and children into it to keep it alive. If the ones on top refuse to leave voluntarily, just let them die out on their own.

Let’s make our community grow and be healthy again!

What Good Is Seminary?

What good is seminary?

As a devout Christian, after graduating with my Master’s Degree in Christian Studies from a theological seminary (and by the grace of God with a 4.0 GPA), I feel I am adequately equipped to answer this question.

Some believe that seminary is where to go if one wants to become a “professional Christian”. They believe that to go to the next level of belief and faith in God, that one should go to theological seminary or to bible college. They believe that one cannot know all there is to know about God, the church, and the Holy Bible without going to seminary.

The university from which I matriculated had four levels of seminary. There was an Associates, Bachelors, Masters, and Doctorate program. Some might feel that until one attains the highest level of seminary that one is not a good enough, or well-equipped for ministry Christian. I will tell my opinion about that towards the end of this blog post after I tell a few benefits that come from attending seminary.

For starters, if you hope to be a bible teacher one day, it helps to be taught by others who have spent a lifetime of studying the Bible. Some people spend their entire adult life studying the Old Testament or the New Testament or even just one book of the Bible. Therefore, if you want to teach others about the Bible at your church, it would prove beneficial to be taught by this particular person.

Some people feel as if Bible study is unnecessary. They feel that the Holy Spirit Himself can teach them all they need to know about the Bible. That is true. The Holy Spirit can teach you whatever God wants you to know. But the reality is that because of our strong traditions that come from our church or denomination or family, we will always FILTER God’s truth through mankind’s teaching. And much of that teaching might be faulty. It is hard to drink purified water through a dirty glass. Sometimes, seminary can clean the glass so that you can rightfully receive what God is telling you about the Bible.

For example, many Christian partake of the Daniel Diet. This is the diet that we read about in the book of Daniel wherein Daniel only ate particular foods and did not eat the Babylonian food that was offered to him. Today, for ten days many Christians will refrain from eating meat and sweets as a way to get closer to God. BUT seminary can teach you that many of the foods we eat in America were not even around in Babylon, so if we were hoping to eat just like Daniel, then would not be doing exactly as he did. Also, Daniel’s purpose for eating those particular foods was not to get closer to God, but rather it was to avoid eating the unclean food being offered to him by the Babylonians. The Israelites only ate Kosher clean food, and because Daniel was a Hebrew, he could not in good conscience eat their food. And Daniel did not only eat the right food for 10 days as we do, but he ate that way his entire life. But because we are not Hebrews in Babylonian exile, we should not feel bad that we cannot do the Daniel Diet as Daniel did because we should only be trying to grasp the principle of the matter which is to hold fast to one’s convictions even under dire circumstances. These are things one might only learn in seminary. Do you see how your information determines your actions?

Another important function of seminary is when one is confronted with false doctrine. My seminary professor of Church History 1 taught us many of the false doctrines/heresies that were condemned in Councils by the Orthodox church in the first few centuries of church history. So when a friend invites me to their church or tries to convince me to believe in some false doctrine, I can automatically dismiss it because I know it as being closely related to a condemned teaching that has returned in the last one hundred years or so to deceive others. Theological seminary can be helpful in recognizing and rejecting false teaching.

I have also found theological seminary to be very helpful in me worshipping God in TRUTH. Believe it or not, but your theology will affect your praise and worship. For example, if you think of God as some cosmic Joe Jackson who is scrutinizing your performance waiting with a celestial whip with which to cast you into hell at the slightest mistake you make, it will greatly impact your relationship with Him. If you think of God as the deists who believe that God simply created all humanity and then left it alone to its own devices without any interference, then it will greatly impact your prayer life. But if you know God’s true character which is a Heavenly Father who loves you unconditionally and who chastises those whom He loves as sons, then you will have a better relationship with Him and therefore worship Him in truth. Seminary has theology classes that teach you accurately about God and His nature.

One last thing I’ll mention about the importance of seminary is that it tells you not simply WHAT the Bible says but HOW to read the Bible. We know that many a cult is begun by one charismatic leader telling an ignorant congregation EXACTLY what to think and believe. But this is uncommon in seminary. I attended a seminary that had students and teachers of different denominational backgrounds, and we were not always told WHAT to believe, but we were told HOW to read the Bible. The problem with the 33,000 – 38,000 Christian denominations is that most of them attempt to tell their members WHAT to believe. And doubtless they are being told what to believe by one imperfect human being. So whatever that one imperfect person teaches them is now believed by them and taught to their children. If the originator of the teaching was wrong, then everyone who believes everything he says is wrong too. And that is how cults get started. For example, one might teach their congregation that women must wear stockings and closed-toe shoes. Even though this is not in the Bible, it will be passed down to all generations as the truth. However, it is not true, but merely tradition and preference. Seminary will help one to see whether or not a tradition is actually and accurately based on a Bible verse or principle.

The Bible tells us to RIGHTLY divide the word of truth. It does not tell us to blindly swallow whatever we are told. And seminary has taught me that. I have learned to prayerfully read the Scriptures with illumination from the Holy Spirit; I have long ago ceased to accept everything I am told even though I know the Bible says the opposite or otherwise. Seminary has not made me a better Christian or a more godly person, but it has cleared my mind of the traditions of men that are not rooted in the Bible so that I might be more clearly influenced by the truth of God. If nothing else, seminary can serve as type of detox for tradition clutter.

What Joseph Can Teach Us About Godly Leadership

thIt has been said that everyone is a leader. Whether they lead well or lead poorly, everyone is a leader whether they admit it or not – whether they are consenting or not. Joseph was no exception. As the baby boy of large family, he was what we might consider “spoiled”. He was favored by his earthly father, but little did he know, he was also favored by his heavenly Father. His earthly father favored him with a coat of many colors, but his heavenly Father favored him with VISION. God blessed Joseph with a positive view of the future that unbeknownst to Joseph was full of purpose. This is how it is with all godly leaders. They are given a vision of the future that shows the future as looking better than it looks like now. If Joseph’s family was already bowing to him before the dream, he would have no need for a vision of it in the future.

In Genesis 37:4, we see that but favor brings hatred. Leaders much accept that being favored by God to carry out something in the world will bring hatred from someone. However, we must keep our eyes on the future and not let the meantime discourage us. When God gives us a vision of the end, He does not inform us about the in-between time. He does not typically give leaders a vision of the journey when He gives leaders a vision of destination. I believe that there is a good reason for this. I believe that if God were to show all leaders a glimpse of the hardships they would face along the way to their actualized vision then most people would be afraid to get out of bed in the morning. If God had shown Joseph the family betrayal, the enslavement, and the wrongful imprisonment, he might have disposed of the variegated coat and the vision!

Another important thing I glean from Joseph’s story of leadership is that his vision was bigger than him and his family. He thought he would simply see the day when his brothers and parents bowed down to him. He more than likely did not see his family doing this begrudgingly. He more than likely did not see this happening in Egypt. He more than likely did not see himself having to wait for over a decade to see this happening. And that is how it goes with many godly visions. As a leader, you will not always see HOW it will happen. And even when you have an idea of how it will happen, it will more than likely STILL not happen that way.

In Genesis 37:5, we see that one of the hardships one might face before they see the actualization of their vision is being misunderstood by those closest to you. Upon telling a family member, a close friend, or a church member the vision God has shown you, you expect them to be happy with you. You expect them to support you. However, perhaps because of jealousy of your purpose in God, they might reject you in order to reject your dream. However, a leader will not give up on the dream just to keep close connections. A godly leader will keep believing in the divine dream coming to pass.

In Genesis 37:8, Joseph’s brothers tried to make him second guess the validity of his dream by questioning his dream. Little did they know, this was not a dream or vision that Joseph concocted for himself out of self-centeredness. It was a divine dream supernaturally downloaded to him by God. As a leader, some people will resent you instead of the God who gave you the vision. They think the dream is about you, but it’s bigger than you and actually includes a huge blessing for them. Nevertheless, do like Joseph and communicate your vision. Whether people like what you are telling them or not, they will still be instrumental in bringing your vision to pass!

In Genesis 37:10, perhaps Joseph’s father was upset with Joseph because he felt that he was the one with the calling from God. He did not have enough foresight to see that God was still bringing to pass the vision He gave to Israel (Jacob) through a vision He gave to Joseph! Leaders have to accept the fact that the people they are leading will not understand that when they support your divine vision that they are supporting their own divine vision. Leaders are to be servants, not self-serving. If people see their leaders as self-serving, they will likely resent them and make them feel guilty about being purposed. After the way that Israel responded to Joseph’s dream, Joseph might have felt some false guilt about knowing that his parents would be bowing down to him.

In Genesis 37:11, the bible says that the vision haters still did not forget the dreamer’s dream. The people a leader communicates his or her dream to may claim not to like, support, or believe it, but they’ll not forget it because they play a part in it!

In Genesis 37:18-20, we see that lack of support can eventually lead to attempts of sabotage. Something that leaders must accept is that some of the people who are to bring the dream to pass with you will conspire to undermine the dream. If a pastor is trying to do something different with his church based on a vision God gave him, there might be a faction on the deacon board that subverts his attempts. If a wife is trying to fulfill a vision to go back to school to get a degree to help others after her kids have gone off to college, her insecure husband might try to sabotage her by making her feel like a bad wife. However, leaders must be “guardians of the vision” regardless of who the vision upsets. This vision is not about the wants of you and your loved ones, but it’s about bringing to pass God’s purposes. Each vision a leader has just plays a small role in God’s great picture and kingdom story. Followers should not resent any vision that would bring God’s purposes to pass. To attempt to overthrow any of God’s visions to man is an attempt to overthrow God’s purposes. Any attempt to resist God would be dangerous and done in vain.

Genesis 37:4 – Favor = Hated

5 – Had a divine vision that he communicated that caused others beneath him or without the dream to hate him and resent the vision

8 – Others will question the vision and try to cause you to second guess it. Once again, those who are not the leader will hate you the more for your vision and your break down of it

10 – Others who think they have a bigger purpose than you will also cause you to second guess the dream and to feel false guilt about it

11 – The haters will never forget your dream even though they claim not to believe in it!

18-20 – The haters will try to kill the vision by killing you! All they see when they see you is someone with divine vision who makes them upset because they have none. (Why are the mad at you and not at the God who chose you without your permission?)

When trying to sell you dream to doubters, it is important to have a person of influence to persuade others to support your dream. However, in Joseph’s case, we see that in Genesis 37:21-22, he just needed one person of influence to dissuade others from killing him (and as a result of that from killing his vision). Even though Big Brother Reuben did not support the dream, he supported Joseph. It has been said that you must buy into the leader before you buy into their vision. Reuben loved his baby brother and so he would not let him die regardless of his vision.

Leaders need people to help sell their dream. Even Jesus used the woman at the well to publicize Him. Leaders need not think that they can pull people in on their own merit. Just because a leader has vision does not mean that he has influence. Joseph had no influence when it came to his vision. However, Reuben as the first-born, had the most influence and respect of all the brothers. He was a God-send that was used to preserve Joseph’s life in the hand of his haters.

One reason people try to undermine leaders is because that vision’s leader may make them feel insecure or inferior. Seeing God use someone who is weaker or younger than you may cause you to resent your life. Leaders must not fuel those fears by flaunting their perceived “superiority” or their favor in the eyes of those they serve. I find it distasteful for a pastor of a very poor congregation to flaunt new suits and expensive vehicles. Perhaps Joseph’s brothers disliked how he pranced around in his multi-colored coat which served as a constant reminder that he was more loved by their father. (In verse 23, it is interesting that before his brothers threw him into the pit, they made sure to tear away his coat as if they could not stand to have him wearing it even if he were to die.)

However, we must not forget God’s sovereignty. Joseph HAD to go to Egypt to fulfill God’s vision. So whether or not he was favored by Israel, whether or not he had a pretty coat, whether or not he had such a dream, God’s sovereignty would have made sure he made it to Egypt. Sure God could have gotten Joseph there a less painful way, but this is the way God chose to do it. Genesis 37:25-28 shows that God, in His omniscience and sovereignty, moves traffic and hearts just in time to keep you on schedule to fulfill the vision. Nothing and no one can disrupt the plans of God. Leaders must not become bitter when their haters are used according to God’s sovereignty. They were just instruments. Leaders must not become arrogant when they are used according to God’s sovereignty. They too are just instruments.

21-22 – But God will raise up someone that will prevent your demise – thus the dream’s demise (thus their insecurity’s and inferiority’s demise). Someone will inadvertently support you (and thus your dream). You need people of influence to add credibility to your vision. Big brother Reuben saved his life (and the vision)!

23 – Your haters will pull off other unrelated things that made them jealous of you. Ex. They’ll try to get you fired and take your man!

25-28 – God will persuade your haters to do acts that move you in position to fulfill the vision!

Leaders must always remember that it is God who gave you the vision and favor to bring about His purposes. There are not exactly YOUR visions, but they are God’s visions. Because they are God’s visions, He will bless those who are carrying out His visions. We see in Genesis 39:2-5 and 23 that God is WITH the one with a vision. Philippians 1:6 lets us know that when God begins a good work or vision in a leader that He will bring it to completion. Favor and good success will follow God’s leaders who live lives to fulfill divine visions.

Something that is very important for leaders to remember is that they are to have a moral code by which they will govern their lives on their way to fulfilling their purpose. We see in Genesis 39:7-12, Joseph did not take advantage of a temptation to have sex with a married woman. Even though it cost him three years in jail, I am sure he did not regret turning her down. He was so ethical and grateful for his blessings that he could not fathom betraying those who blessed him. Sometimes leaders who lead righteous lives will suffer wrongfully for it. Godly leaders must resist the temptations that will doubtless come their way. Leaders are attractive to others because they have things that most people do not have. Many women go for a man with power, influence, position, authority, anointing, etc. They also may have more money with which to make poor decisions. A pastor has more opportunities to travel around the country without his wife which leads to more temptation for adultery. A pastor has more access to other people’s money which leads to more temptation for stealing. But leaders must NEVER give in to temptations which are simply Satan’s way to prevent God’s purposes from coming to pass. Don’t help the devil hurt God, leaders!

Leaders must decide early which principles will govern their life. Joseph’s principle was loyalty and gratitude. He was so loyal to God and Potiphar and he was so grateful for his blessings that he refused to sleep with this married woman. As a side note, it is important for leaders not to find themselves in situations where their “good can be evil spoken of”. Leaders should use wisdom and refrain from being alone with people other than family members so that lies will be unfounded. Because Joseph allowed himself to be alone with this woman, she had access to his clothes that she later used to get him into trouble. (Notice a theme with people taking Joseph’s clothes to undermine him?)

Chapter 40 of Genesis shows us that Joseph’s gift of prophetic dreams and interpretation of prophetic dreams was not just to be put on reserve for the destination. Joseph was also to use his gifts along the journey to assist. While imprisoned for righteousness sake, Joseph used his gift to bless two people, a baker and a cupbearer. This was pivotal to Joseph’s own dream being actualized.

Leaders must not be “grand” when they see they have a vision and purpose. Some leaders feel that once they are called that they are too above the little person. They may feel that if God has called them to be a megapastor that they are too big to accept small church invitations to speak. However, godly leaders must serve others regardless of how irrelevant they may seem to their bigger vision. Because Joseph was kind enough to serve (interpret) for these two men, one was able to bless him in turn in the future when the time was right. Leaders should never underestimate the small tasks they do. They all serve a purpose in the great scheme of things. You never know which of the acts that you chose to do will reap a greater harvest in the future. It’s not your job to determine who is irrelevant to your purpose. It is your job to serve others your gift and leave the rest up to God.

Chapter 41 of Genesis should comfort all misunderstood leaders. Someday, your vision and dreams will be understood and believed. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. had a great dream that has definitely come to pass. The actualization of your divine dream will be apparent to all the doubters. The dream will happen just the way God said it would in God’s timing. We see in Genesis 42:6 that God will not only move traffic and hearts but also climate and clouds to bring about His purposes.

Chapter 44 and 45 shows that Joseph still kept his morality in the face of those who doubted his dream and who tried to bring about his demise. God gave him understanding after so many years of uncertainty that his vision had come to pass. It’s hard to stay bitter when God makes everything better. Leaders should have a trust in God and a spiritual maturity that causes them to act Christ-like even when being mistreated for no good reason. Leaders should trust that haters are part of the process when someone is called of God. Leaders should understand that it is very difficult from secular-minded persons to understand a God-given dream. Joseph was able to see that this dream was not about him but about God and His purposes. Joseph was able to see his haters are divine assignments he was to bless and preserve. All things work together for the good of them who love God and are the called according to His purpose. (Romans 8:28) Leaders must trust God’s sovereignty.

Genesis 45 has Joseph explain the vision more clearly to his brothers. Joseph realizes that God had a plan to preserve a remnant of people of Jacob so that they would not perish from hunger in the famine. Joseph said God “sent me before you to preserve life”. Joseph saw the bigger picture. A leader should be able to see the bigger picture and be able to explain this vision to his followers. It is difficult for followers to follow people to a place about which they have no idea. Godly leaders don’t try to make their followers feel bad for not understanding the dream. Joseph told them not to be distressed or angry with themselves for the poor choices they made concerning him. He was too busy being purposeful to be petty.

In Genesis 46:2 God explains to Israel that all along, He was trying to make a great nation out of Israel and his descendants. Israel might have been envious at first of Joseph’s dream, but he can now see that it was actually a way to advance him! Sometimes the people you lead can’t see that your dream is actually going to support their dream! When people get mad at their visionary pastor for raising yet more money for a larger church building, they may not be able to see that in that larger building, there will be a room set aside for them to begin their ministry. To subvert other anointed persons is to sabotage themselves! In Genesis 47:11, Joseph was able to give them the best land in Egypt. In Genesis 47:27, we see that Joseph’s family was greatly blessed because of him.

Lastly, we see that in Genesis 47:31 just as in Genesis 43:26 that the dream will come to pass after all. After all the betrayal. After all the tears. After all the heartache. After all the temptations. After all the lies. After all the jail time. After all the drought. After all the famine. The dream that God gives a leader will come to pass because God will see to it that it does!

Genesis 39:2-5, 23 – God is with the one with a vision

7-12 – Have values that will guide how you will live on your way to your destiny. There will be secular temptations trying to get you off track, but never give in!

Genesis 40 – Your vision is not just for the destiny, but it can also be used for the journey. You can help others along the way. And what you do for the small guys along the way will later result in you having open doors for the destination,

Genesis 41 – Your vision will be apparent before all – believers or otherwise.

Genesis 42:6 – God will move land and sea to make HIS vision come true through you. People will make your vision come true without even knowing!

Genesis 44 – A leader will bless the people He is intended to bless and lead even if they betray Him. He sees them as a divine assignment and he sees their betrayal as working together for the good of God’s vision.

Genesis 45 – A godly leader with vision does not resent those resent him and his godly vision. Rather he sees all thing working together for God’s purpose. Joseph saw the betrayal (and residual hurt) as necessary to sustain the Israel (Jacob) and all of his descendants. The betrayal led to 8

Genesis 46:2 & 47:11&27 – The folk who hated on your dream will eventually realize that it will bless them too!

Genesis 47:31 – They will all bow just as the vision said.

Why Did God Trust YOU with This Horrible Experience?

Ever wonder to yourself why God trusted you with a bad experience? Cancer, loss of a child, etc.?

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Image As a child, I remember watching” Alive” with my family. This movie is based on a 70’s plane crash survivor story known as “Miracle in the Andes”. Being so young, the only things that stuck out to me were the mountains, the cold temperatures, the plane crash, and the cannibalism the survivors had to do to survive for weeks without food. But there was so much more to the story.

I just finished watching the movie some days ago as a 27 year old, spirit-filled adult. And the movie was so much richer than I’m sure even the director intended. God blessed me to open my eyes to the wonderful insights and rich revelations one could glean from that movie.

The movie starts out with a man sucking on a cigarette saying that he was given a glimpse to another aspect of God. For the longest, he was introduced to…

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Masks Off: Disliked for Who You Are or Loved for Who You Are Not?

“Love takes off masks we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within.” – James Baldwin


Sadly, I believe that very few of us ever reach true intimacy. I believe most of us have enjoyed the temporary joys of dating and making out and other conventions of relationships. But so few of us will ever reach true intimacy. And the reason is simple. God has given each of us memories and emotions. And when those memories are painful and those emotions are hurt by people that we love, we make a decision – consciously or subconsciously – to never let anyone hurt us like that again. Unfortunately for us, making that decision does absolutely nothing to our stronger desire to connect with others.

After watching different movies about life in the penitentiary, I discovered that a man would rather be in general population where he is in danger of being shanked (stabbed) or violently sodomized against his will than to be locked up in solitary confinement. It is the worst punishment for even the most hardened criminal to be locked away from others – even though those others may have and may continue to hurt them. This goes to show that all humans were made for connection with other human beings despite how hurt they’ve been in times past.

So how do we cope with that cognitive dissonance? How do we love WITHOUT risking hurt? This post does not attempt to answer that question. The previous paragraph just goes to show that humans want connection in spite of pain. Yet despite our desperate need and desire to connect, why come so few of us achieve it?

I believe the reason we cannot achieve true intimacy is because our past hurts “force” us to put on masks. They don’t actually force us, but they terrify us enough to put them on because we fear what could happen if we do not don our masks. Our memories remind us how painful it was the last time we loved as we truly were. Maybe as a child, you reached out to Mommy for a hug and she pushed you away. Maybe you waited hours for Daddy to come home to show him a card you made just for him, only for him to wave you away and lock himself in his room without any greeting or acknowledgement. These simple examples represent profound experiences that shape us. They make us question ourselves as to why our parents don’t like or appreciate us as we are. So we try to alter our real, “unlovable” selves so as to prevent being rejected again for who we really are. We’d rather be loved for we are not than to face the pain of being rejected for who we are.

One thing about masks is that we continue to wear them because they work. If they didn’t work in getting us what we wanted, we would no longer wear them. So masks are effective in a sense. Another thing about masks is that they can be changed at any time – even several times in an hour. So if you meet four different people in an hour, you could act four different ways to make all of them pleased with them. If you felt your Mommy liked you smarter, skinnier, neater, and cuter, you worked on that mask and presented it to her. You saw it made her smile at, compliment, and hug you. If you felt that your Daddy liked you more accomplished, you worked on that mask and presented to your Dad a new you that was a star quarterback, a great tennis player, or a straight A student. And that made Daddy show you off and give you attention. While it is sad that some parents do not love their children unconditionally, it is a reality that must be accepted. And once you accept that you had demanding, perfectionistic parents, you have another choice to make.

You can choose to be disliked for who you are or loved for who you’re not.

And if you make the right decision, you will remove those masks and say, “HERE I AM! LOVE ME OR LEAVE ME, BUT I WILL NOT HIDE ANYMORE!”

Now let me explain some things. I am not suggesting that you don’t change anything negative about yourself and command others to love you as you are if who you are is abusive, offensive, and criminal. Don’t molest children, beat up people on the street, and call people outside of their names and then say, “Love me for who I am because I refuse to hide under my mask anymore!” By no means! But what I am saying is that you have to understand that if you are not intentionally hurting anyone, you do not have to change to make people except you.

Another disclaimer is that you also have to understand that people have expectations of adults. A newborn baby is expected to do absolutely nothing but eat, sleep, and poop. No one is disappointed in them for not knowing the alphabet. No one is shaking their head in shame because they are not walking. No one is scolding them for not changing their own diaper. So you must know that when you are an adult – especially a male – people expect you to work a job. Also, as an adult, people expect you to obey laws. Don’t be a lazy slob using welfare when you are able to work and then say, “Take me as I am!I refuse to work, and I will continue to rob and steal!” (If this is your attitude about not wearing a mask, I personally don’t expect anyone to like you.) But if you are a person who does not hurt others deliberately, who works a job to pay bills and whatnot, and who does not intentionally break laws or biblical commands, then you should not have to put on a mask to make people like you. Just doing those things makes you enough.

So back to what I was saying about intimacy. One cannot be intimate with a mask. You cannot feel someone’s face who is wearing a mask. You cannot know someone who is constantly lying to you. You cannot be intimate with someone who refuses to get close to you. That is because INTIMACY IS THE REMOVAL OF DISTANCE.

Think of intercourse. Intercourse is considered intimate because it is the removal of space between two physical bodies. In fact, not only is space removed outside of the body, but with the woman, the space inside is also removed. There is no distance between two people engaging in intercourse. The same goes for tongue kissing. There is no space left there. So it is intimate.

Well, that was speaking physically. Now let’s think emotionally. When you are truly intimate with someone, you remove all distance between their emotions for you and your emotions for them. They know how you feel about them, and you know how they feel about you. But if you hide your true feelings behind a mask, they do not truly know your emotions. So there is still distance. So there is no true intimacy.

Again, the reason we do not tell them our true feelings is because we fear they will stop loving us. But think of children and their parents. Younger children will tell their parent that their breath stinks because kids are brutally honest. But it doesn’t mean that they will stop loving the parent. We have to stop equating truth with abandonment. And if you do, just understand that those you were honest with who abandoned you were simply unwilling to be close to you. Doubtless, they’ve heard worse things from others that they continued to be in relationship with because they WANTED to be in relationship with them. But don’t let their rejection of you make you redefine the lovability of you. Just take their rejection as redirection to someone who WANTS relationship and intimacy with you.

We want so badly to be loved for who we are, but we learn to hate who we really are because who we really are – flawed – resulted in someone rejecting us. So we hate ourselves so much so that we forget who we are and begin to truly think this mask is the real us. But we must do the thing we think we cannot do. We must remove these masks and dare to be loved for who we truly are. The people who God has for us, will love us without them.

However, if you so decide that life with a mask is preferable to being loved as you are, carry on as you were. But just know that you are not in a real relationship. You are in a dance, an arrangement between a person and a mask.


Truth Matters: Does Truth Come from Within or Above?


I’ll never be popular, or well-liked. I’ll never have a totally easily life without challenges or difficulties. The reason for this is simply because I believe that truth matters. I am convinced that truth matters. I believe that people should hear and be told and know the truth. Because of that, most people will not like me. I will be labeled as judgmental, as a troublemaker, as a party-pooper, as a rain on one’s parade.

But I will not be silent.

Because I am a mouthpiece for God, I expect to be at odds with the world. Because I have no intentions of turning on God, I expect a world bent on silencing me. But in spite of it all, I will cry aloud.

This is because TRUTH MATTERS. It really, really matters.

If truth did not matter, I would not care if my loved ones dated the wrong person. If truth did not matter, I would eat and drink whatever I wanted without any regard for my health. If truth did not matter, I would not waste my time and money enrolling in a Master’s level seminary program to learn how to better tell people the truth that they someday will die and will face the wrath of an omnipotent God with the power to condemn them to eternal punishment.

Unfortunately though I cannot pretend in that way because TRUTH MATTERS.

It matters that you understand that you only get one body in a lifetime. It matters that you do not marry and produce children with the wrong person who will wreck the lives of your offspring. It matters that you obey a God who can destroy both body and soul in eternal fire. I know these weightier things matter because much smaller truths matter.

Does it matter if you and your boss agree on your pay rate? Does the truth matter about whether or not they are paying you $3 an hour or $30 an hour? Does the truth matter whether or not the sign which says “Bridge Out Ahead” is true or not? Does the truth matter of whether or not the person you are about to engage in unprotected sex with has the HIV, Hepatitis, or Herpes virus? Do these things matter? Of course, only because TRUTH MATTERS.

The thing about truth is that IT WILL HAPPEN TO YOU. A lie will never happen to you. I can tell you that the Tooth Fairy will fly in through your ceiling and give your daughter a quarter for her tooth. But if will never happen. I can tell you that Santa Claus will descend down your chimney to leave presents in time for Christmas morning. But it will never happen. I can tell you that the Easter Bunny will hop through your backyard to leave dyed, hard-boiled eggs and a pastel, shrink wrap-covered Easter basket full of candy and toys and fake grass. But it will never happen. So because it will never happen, I don’t waste my time talking about it. But what matters is what will happen. The truth will happen to you. The reason for this is that TRUTH COMES FROM THE TOP DOWN. In other words, truth comes from God down to mankind. That is the reason it will happen because God can make it happen.

Contrary to popular belief, truth does not come from the inside out. Neither does it come horizontally from person to person. In other words, a fellow human being cannot create eternal truth and then make it true for you unless it is first true from God. In other words, if God says that you will live to be 100 years old, a person can push you off a bridge at age 30 and you’ll simply come up wet. If God says you will be married at the time of your death, you can rest assured that before you die, you will have been at someone’s altar for a wedding. No human can create a truth that God does not agree with.

Truth is eternal; that is why humans cannot make it. Only God can. God knows the end from the beginning. He knew the death dates of every human that would ever be born before the earth was created. Nothing has caught God by surprise. God wasn’t surprised that you got pregnant at age 16. He wasn’t surprised that you lived a homosexual lifestyle for 10 years before you got married in a heterosexual union. He wasn’t surprised that you got addicted to heroin at age 20 because He knew all the truth and facts before they occurred.

In this post-modern society, we are taught that truth is subjective. We are taught that what may be true for you may not be true for me and vice versa. For example, they will teach you that maybe Christianity is the way you will get into heaven, but it will not be the way Buddhists, Hindus, and Muslims will get into heaven. They will teach you that maybe you have to be heterosexual to please God in a relationship, but not them. They CLAIM to believe that truth is not objective. It is not from the top down, but they CLAIM to believe that truth comes from within or from whatever is popular in culture at the time. What was true for the 1700’s may not be truth now. What was true from the 1950’s may not be true now. What was true even yesterday and what will be true tomorrow, will not necessarily be truth today for them. But that is a lie. Truth is truth from the beginning because truth does not change because truth knew from the beginning what would be. Why would truth change its mind? Truth would only change its mind if it didn’t know all the facts. But it does!

Truth is not created day by day. Truth is REVEALED over time. God lets His truths be discovered. Don’t think for a minute that if you get married to your soulmate that you MADE that person your soulmate. What happened was that God KNEW it was your soulmate all along and He LET you find him. He LET you discover that truth. You didn’t make it true; it was true. Barack Obama didn’t just happen to become the first black president. God knew from the beginning that it would be so. He didn’t just luck out and win the vote. God knew. It doesn’t mean God chose him, but it means that God knew the truth about who WE would choose.

As you can see, it’s best to discover truth as soon as possible. It saves a lot of wasted time, money, energy, tears, blood, etc. There is one benefit to denying truth however. It seems to temporarily postpone what one does not want to feel at the moment. For example, if the doctor tells me that I have Stage IV pancreatic cancer with 6 weeks left to live, I will be very hurt by that truth. So I may want to deny it in order to postpone those overwhelming feelings of paralyzing, crippling fear. But regardless of what I lie to myself about at the time, it will not change the truth that will happen to me. The lie that I will live to a ripe old age of 92 will only provide temporary comfort. But even while you tell yourself that lie, you can already rest assured that every few seconds, the truth will be screaming loudly, YOU WILL DIE IN A FEW WEEKS! YOU WILL DIE IN A FEW WEEKS! YOU WILL DIE IN A FEW WEEKS! Now you may not die in exactly six weeks. You may die in four or you may die in 6 months, but you will die. You may not die from complications of the disease in 6 weeks because you could die in a car accident immediately after leaving that doctor’s office or you may die of a self-inflicted fatal gunshot wound in 5 weeks. But do not lie to yourself and say that you will live to be 92 if you still have this disease (not unless God Himself tells you that you will because remember only God knows all the truth). What is fact to the doctors doesn’t necessarily have to be truth to God. The doctor can say your prognosis is 3 months, but if God says, “You’ll live 30 more years,” then God’s truth will ALWAYS trump the doctor’s prognosis. Doctors only talk about what their limited experience and studies have shown them, but they cannot talk about what God has ordained. The doctor can say you’ll die in 6 months, but God can say, “You’ll die tonight.” It will happen as God has said.

Truth can hurt, but lies can destroy. For example, let’s say you really want to marry a particular person. Some people would rather believe the lie that they will live happily ever after, but God knows if that person is going be an abusive, raging alcoholic who will leave you for another man or woman after a few months of marriage. Sure, the lie is more dreamy, but remember that a lie cannot happen to you. But the truth will always happen to you.

I have committed myself to sharing the truth with people. Because of my humanity, my delivery may not always be tactful. But may it never be said that I did not share the truth with people when I knew it. If God gives me discernment to see into your situation, if God gives me a close relationship with you, and if God tells me the bad that will come of it if you do not make some changes, then trust me to tell you the truth.

The dilemma that comes up then is that people question your love from them. Why is it that people equate lying with love? They feel that if you choose not to lie to them about what makes them happy, then you do not love you. For example, I believe that godly marriage should be between one man and one woman. But if a loved one of mine chooses a homosexual relationship, they will more than likely want me to give them my blessings (despite the fact that God does not), and they want this done all in the name of being loving and nonjudgmental. But how loving is it for me to see you headed towards certain destruction and heartache and to turn a blind eye and to offer you a smile as you head there? Love will say STOP! DON’T! RECONSIDER! Love does not always say, DO IT! GO AHEAD! I SUPPORT YOU 100%!

And that is why I will not be popular in this world. I will be seen as the enemy. I will be seen as judgmental. I will be seen as harsh. But at least the eyes of God, I will be seen as His mouthpiece. I will only tell the truth.